The Healing Journey
Crescent Beach, Surrey 09-06-2021 8:07pm
Our perception of the outside world forms our experience in life. In other words, our emotional and physical feelings (reactions) are the direct end results of how we mentally process external stimuli.
If that is the case, have you ever noticed that our external world actually acts as a guide to help us understand what we need to heal on the inside, and how we see and perceive others (and our external reality) is a direct reflection of how we see and treat ourselves?
For example, if you find yourself frequently judging other people, then most likely that is how you are treating yourself too — frequently judging and talking down to yourself. If you have a victim mentality (when unideal things happen, the tendency to blame other people or external factors, and/or would react with expressions such as “why does this always happen to me?!”). Or, if you find yourself frequently jealous of others, then inherently, you are seeing yourself as lacking, or inferior, to the person you are jealous of...
This is how our outer physical world interacts with us. Though no scientific study has attempted to explore this possibility yet, it is easy for us to see this relationship in effect — we can verify this possibility by experimenting this hypothesis ourselves. We can observe how a shift in mindset can affect our lives; how a conscious decision to change a self-limiting belief system to an empowering one can lead to polar opposite perceptions of the same life, and lead to many seemingly purely coincidental events that would further align and reinforce this positive, empowering belief system, like a positive feedback loop.
Personally, I have done this “experiment” for over 6 months now, and the amount of insights and positive change I have gained in all of my life areas is incredible and surreal. That is why I almost feel obligated to share this on my blog. I will 100% write a blog post (or may even be a Youtube video) on my personal healing journey in the future, but for now, I want to focus on convincing you to try shifting your self-limiting belief system to a self-fulfilling one, because what can you lose by changing your negative self beliefs to positive and empowering ones?
Just try the below methods for a month, and see for yourself.
The process is simple — When feeling unideal emotions, closely investigate what triggered these emotions in you, and ask WHY
Next time when you encounter events that trigger negative emotions in you, instead of immediately reacting to it as you would have otherwise, take a moment to look into why you are being triggered. Try to recognize what emotion(s) you are feeling (whether it’d be anger, despair, or jealousy). Then, ask yourself, “why am I feeling these emotions? What exactly in this situation is triggering me and making me feel this way?”, and most importantly, “WHY?”
If the limiting self belief that is at play here is deeply rooted in you (such as childhood wounds), you may not be able to recognize it immediately with just one emotionally triggering event. Thus, to further your investigation, you can look back to all the series of events that have led to this unfulfilling or unideal outcome; look into your reactions and actions toward all of these events. Then really contemplate on what thoughts or belief systems within you are at play here and manifesting themselves into reality. If you really don’t think that it is you who has led to this unideal event/outcome, then next time when similar event happens, try not to react in your usual way (by reacting I mean being triggered, emotionally and/or physically, in a negative way); try to just observe the event and let it pass. Take a few deep breaths before deciding how you are going to react, and then, observe how later events unfold; observe if you feel and thus see the world differently from before, where you were always reacting rather than consciously deciding, and thus, always letting the outside world take control of your internal state.
Another approach — Find the difference(s) between the current you, and the “ideal" you
Start by thinking about what you actually want in life that would make you ultimately and genuinely happy. Then, examine, where the gap lies between your dream life and your current life. Or, what is making you unhappy and feeling drained in your life right now? If you could change your life right at this very moment in any way, how would you change it?
After you have identified an area of your life that you are dissatisfied with, think about the change(s) that you can make right at this very moment. What tiny baby steps and tiny baby changes can you take and change RIGHT NOW to move towards your dream life? Not in the future, but right now. If something is stopping you, what is that thing? Why is that thing stopping you? Was that thing actually an obstacle, or a mental construct that you created with your self-limiting belief system(s)? For example, if you think money is the problem, then this belief might come from a lack mindset where you (subconsciously) don’t believe that you can be that rich and abundant person, or that you can acquire the amount of money you need (btw, nothing in this world is expensive, it’s just you don’t want/need it that badly, see this video).
If something is actually an obstacle, then nobody would have been able to conquer it and rise above.
So, if throughout history, there exist one person who had overcome this “obstacle,” then this “obstacle” is not a true obstacle. It is just a mental construct that you yourself created in your mind, and it would only take one simple action to overcome it — changing those belief systems into positive ones (”I am capable,” “I am healthy (and physically active),” “I am abundant,” ”I am courageous”, “I am persistent”, “I am diligent”, and etc).
By developing and holding self-strengthening belief systems, you would start to make decisions and act in ways that resemble what (who) you believe you are. Of course, logically speaking, one needs to first work through their self-limiting beliefs in order to develop self-empowering ones.
That is exactly why the healing journey is so important for self-actualization, but this is not to say that ALL negative emotions are bad and ALL negative self-beliefs should be eliminated. But rather, you should take the time to know yourself better everyday, and then work through the belief systems that are no longer serving you at your own pace. Also, keep in mind that life is about the journey, not the destination, so enjoy the ride at your own pace while self-actualizing!
Meanwhile, the healing journey is very often being described as a somewhat a depressing phase (what the spiritual community refers to as “the dark night of the soul”). Undeniably, the healing journey brings one’s awareness and attention to their deepest wounds and fears inside their subconscious mind. However, the healing journey is actually the most fulfilling part of the inner journey (and the most fun part in my opinion).
By working through all the fears, insecurities, and wounds from the past, we are unloading our emotional burdens, overcoming our past traumas, and through that, we develop true inner confidence and inner strength.
I want to personally promise you, you will feel so light, fulfilled, relieved, happy, and proud of yourself not only when you come out of the journey, but also during each and every single small healing that you go through along this empowering journey.
Btw, you will most likely encounter multiple healing journeys throughout your life (because what is life if without its challenges), but by understanding why it needs to happen for us to thrive, and by learning how to come out of it victorious, it will become easier and easier EVERY TIME (the rate of change of the ease to navigate through is exponential ;)).
May love and light always guide you through your healing journey.
Sending you lots of 🤍 and ✨.
—— Christine How
